Okay we don't get he calculator out every meal - evey shopping trip but since I earn more I pay more and would invite my then girlfriend moreso.Good example is when we went on holiday I paid the greater share even though my then Girlfriend said no.
So do you guys earn the same amount or does he earn substantially more than you???
generally I think the cultural differences issue can be a huge problem.
I find his humor to be very cutting and harsh and sarcastic.
(lots of personal put-downs towards me that he finds funny) He also tells me that it's typical for the man and woman to split everything evenly.
I think he's just making excuses, it's not right to put you down.
I'm also seeing a German guy he has a 'different' sense of humor to me but it doesn't involve putting me down!(even on a date) I would love to get some opinions of other couples out there. Is the humor that different between cultures and I shouldn't take it personally? Yes, there are cultural differences, but and that is a big BUT, your culture matters too. This of course will require that you tell him everything that you would like to expect and then be a bit patient as he will obviously fail at first to live up to it.Should I really be splitting all the bills, or is he just cheap? Gentle reminders will help and so will writing it all down so that he can refer back to it as often as he needs. Problem identified, course made, solution depends on you both.1 year in my book is becoming a serious relationship (especially if you are in your late 20s and 30s).So how things develop now are an indication of your future relationship to come...50% split is for the beginning of a relationship seems to be the norm in Germany.