It goes without saying that Ok Cupid has one of the better reputations of more popular free dating websites for having a wide variety of quality users.However, Ok Cupid has many not-so-great users as well, and it’s not uncommon for women to have the misfortune of encountering them, and in the past, I have as well.And if you’re serious about finding someone, make sure you don’t come across as too aggressive. No means no, and you’re not going to be able to ‘convince’ anyone to fall in love with you, and reacting with anger and threats when someone isn’t interested won’t help you. Watch for any red flags, such as disregarding your boundaries and not respecting your feelings.
Plentyof Fish is perhaps the most popular online dating sites out there, with an estimated 6 million pageviews a month and 76 million users (a little less than the entire population of Turkey).
It’s no surprise that I received nearly twice as many messages on Plenty of Fish than Ok Cupid and Casual Kiss combined.
One of the most notable of these is a reddit user who set up a fake profile and didn’t last two hours.
He came away with the realization that women have it much, much harder on these sites: I figured I would get some weird messages here and there, but what I got was an onslaught of people who were, within minutes of saying hello, saying things that made me as a dude who spends most of his time on 4chan uneasy.
In total, I received 11 messages with 218 visitors. A few were a little more forward, and two were straight-up aggressive.
Despite Casual Kiss being kind of scammy, with only 3000 monthly visitors, I decided to give it a try all the same – and I wasn’t entirely disappointed.
This may help relieve the anxiety of the other person, plus it’s a safeguard for you both in case something happens.
Also, be sure to meet in a public place and to stay in a public place. Finally, don’t give out personal information – your phone number, email address, or even full name – right away.
I joined February 4th, around 7 AM, and received a total of one vote, two winks, and six messages.