I don’t know about you, but I often think that people should send clear signals about whether they like us or not.That’s basically how the new dating app Tinder works. ”There are a lot of guys on tinder, and, lets face it, they’re not all special snowflakes.Having a complete online dating profile (multiple pictures, biography, interests etc.) is what will give whatever you decide to write credence.
Ultimately, you don’t know enough about your recipient yet, or if they’re interested in you, so don’t waste effort writing lengthy intros; that can come later.
If you follow the steps above, you’re going to be writing a personal email, not sending a generic “Hey, what’s up?
’ Would you rather have the power to travel through time or the ability to read minds?
Or would you rather eat a whole jar of jam or drink three gallons of orange juice?
A sloppy first message indicates you’re probably too lazy to even bother writing to them, let alone actually be genuinely interested in them.
Lots of singles over 50 on the dating scene might have been out of the dating game for some time, but that isn’t an excuse to have no confidence in your first message.If you do compliment someone, make sure you cleverly integrate the comment into something they can easily respond to so you don’t leave them thinking ‘uh…thanks?”Before you hit send, always check your messages for any spelling or grammatical errors.Please send a picture of yourself holding a can of sweetcorn in your left hand.’ You’d definitely filter out people who didn’t share you sense of humour at least!If this is your first foray into online dating, or you’ve been out of the dating game for a little while, you’re probably due a crash course on writing that first message to get in contact with someone you want to get to know better!Okay; so you’ve been browsing your matches online and you’ve come across someone who might be a possibility. How do you start the first message to what could be your soulmate in a way that engages and interests them without making you sound a bit odd? In his first message to me, my now fiancé complimented me on the use of an apostrophe in my profile (I’d talked about going to parents’ evening at school – sexy stuff.) To me though, someone who writes for a living, this was the ultimate in flattery and proved that he too knew his ‘their’ from his ‘they’re’. I appreciate that grammar may not be the way to everyone’s heart, so I’ve come up with a few ideas for the all-important first message.